since america refuses to give comprehensive sex ed, a lot of people end up learning from….porn. not the most wonderful thing when sex is represented inaccurately in all kiiiinds of ways in pornography.
-set from Porn Sex vs. Real Sex: The Differences Explained With Food (x)(x)
you can preach about slut-shaming all you want, but you can’t deny there’s something very wrong with 13 and 14-year old girls going out in skirts and dresses so short they barely cover their asses and shirts with necklines so low they show off cleave they haven’t got yet, drinking and even smoking and hooking up with guys before they even have a substantial knowledge of how sex and sexual relationships work.
Yes, there is something wrong with it. No, you are not better than said girls. And no, it is STILL NOT AN EXCUSE TO SLUT SHAME. Not even 13 year olds with “dresses so short they barely cover their asses”.
There IS a reason why very young girls engage in these types of behaviors, and at the fragile age of 13, it’s not because they are conscientiously reclaiming their sexuality and their body. It’s because they’ve already had their sexual power taken away from them. At 13, they’ve already learned that their sole value as young women is their ability to be sexually desirable to men. It’s a form of self-objectification and it is caused by (not a JUSTIFICATION FOR) sexism.
This has everything to do with the same dysfunctional culture about sexuality that allows people to think slut shame is *~totes cool cuz those girls are dumb hoes~*. People need to STOP revictimizing these young women who are ONLY ACTING ON WHAT THEY’VE LEARNED. Instead of looking down on them and continuing the cycle of telling them that they’re worthless, they need to know that they’re WORTHWHILE. Not just because they are attractive and desirable, but because they’re also strong, smart, funny, interesting, kind, talented, and any number of other traits that someone who is learning to see themselves as an object might not immediately recognize.
Sex+ is a weekly YouTube show covering topics related to sexuality, relationships, body image, and gender. About me: OHAI! I'm Laci, 24 yo peer sex educator & YouTuber from San Fran. I make videos to help people learn about sexuality & bodies so they can enjoy them! I like to make people laugh and think, preferably at the same time. You can read more about me & my work here!
LATEST SEX+: SEX WITH DISABILITIES?