new vid is up ~ SEX WITH DISABILITIES? my lovely friend olivia joins me to talk about her experiences with sexuality and disabilities! tons of info, including:
✔ Stereotypes about people with disabilities
✔ Her successes and challenges with dating
✔ How to accommodate various disabilities during sex
my girl Olivia & I are making a vid on SEX AND DISABILITY today! leave us your questions in the notes and she’ll answer them in the vid!
(anything you want)
(even if you’re worried it’s awkward)
new sex+ is up babes! THE TRUTH ABOUT PULLING OUT! here’s the story of how a pretty effective birth control method gets its terrible reputation… in the vid i talk about:
✔ why it fails so often
✔ precum myths
✔ how to make it 96% effective
✔ who should & shouldn’t rely on pulling out
"Sex Positivity is Rape Culture in Disguise"
Does this person have the slightest idea what sex positivity is? Hint: it’s not “YOU ARE OBLIGATED TO ENJOY SEX”. It is not “SEX IS GOOD AND IT IS REQUIRED FOR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS.” It is definitely not “YOU CAN’T SAY NO.” In fact, it’s the opposite (and fights for everything in this quote). It is the philosophy that sex is natural, healthy part of life that should be openly discussed. That your sexuality is your own, that your body is your own, and NOBODY ELSE’S. That you are free to explore it so long as everyone can & does consent. That you have a right to safety, to opting out, to opting in, to finding what feels right for you. And if you don’t want to be sexual, or you’re not ready, that’s OK too and you deserve the same respect as everyone else. In these ways and more, sex positivity directly confronts misogyny, abuse, and sexual violence. It addresses the coercive scripts written by a rape culture and works to put new ones in place. The sex positive feminist movement is one of the biggest challenges to rape culture that there is. This kind of willful mischaracterization, from within the feminist movement no less, is a slap in the face to every sex positive activist who works their ass off in a frustrating, never-ending fight to change our fucked up culture. It’s also a slap in your own face. Just stop.
it’s funny when people try to claim that being dramatic is a “woman thing”. as if the entire sports fandom isn’t one giant nonstop drama.
Just when you thought your one-sided relationship with her couldn’t get any better, Beyoncé wrote a feminist essay entitled, “Gender Equality is a Myth.” If this makes you want to go back to school and write about the movement that will ultimately be known as Beyoncism, “the interdisciplinary study of how to make feminism the coolest thing ever,” you are not alone.
new video babes! in this episode I talk about how
✔society reduces women to things to have sex with
✔it’s so common it feels normal
✔sexual objectification directly contributes to rape culture
(New Sex+: SEX OBJECT BS)
new video is up! fun fact: men AND women (and everyone in between) are capable of having multiple orgasms.
…..i just wanna make sure you ring in the new year right
(New Sex+: MAGICAL MULTIPLE ORGASMS)
the body image revolution will be selfie-fied!
in my new vid i talk about how taking selfies can be a feminist act and offer lots of tips for you to improve your body image with selfies!
(NEW SEX+: THE SELFIE REVOLUTION)
Women aged 15-44 are more likely to be maimed or die from male violence than cancer, malaria, traffic accidents, and war combined.
Feminist talk at Students For Liberty’s 2013 Austin Regional Conference and why feminism is not outdated (via cuntcastle)
& some women - women of color, trans women, disabled women, poor women - are MUCH more likely to experience violence than white/cis/abled/class privileged women (and marginalized women have less recourse in the legal system to have anything done about the violence done to them.)
All women exist in a culture with a specter of violence surrounding them at every turn, but let’s not let aggregate level statistics allow us to believe that we face equal risks.
but no no, feminism is no longer relevant, amirite?
I’ve no reason not to believe this, but I’d still like to see a source.
It’s a figure released by the UN in 2007. (x)
what a babehead. you know, it’s almost like good people learn and grow and stuff. it’s ALMOST like social justice is an ongoing, lifelong process. how whack is that?
A lot of my Sex+ babes have been sending me Lily Allen’s new music video “Hard Out Here" and asking for a review. So…here are my half baked thoughts.
Let me start by saying that I love that there are fierce female musicians out there creating content that critiques misogyny in the media. At it’s heart, this song is the shit. It slaps, it’s critical, it’s unapologetic and real. Oh, and it makes fun of Robin Thicke.
Why can’t we have more like this? Plz? Pritty plz? I wish it was more common. And for that, I give Lily Allen mad props.
Howeverrrrrr I am in solidarity with the outcry about some issues with the video. Unfortunately, Lily went by the wayside by objectifying black women (a la miley cyrus and iggie azalea). Again and again we see white women using black women as props — there for ass shaking and adding an edgy/sexy vibe in the background.
If you watch the vid, you’ll notice the black women are hyper-sexualized in a way that Lily herself (and the other white/white passing women) are not.